A goodbye as Unique as You Are
An older friend recently bemoaned the new automatic toilets installed at the airport. “I’m beginning to think that there is no part of my destiny I can control!” She muttered.
And while that is true for much of our experience on this earth, and even our exit from it, there are some places where our pro active influence can make a difference. Planning end of life arrangements is a certain way to make your final statement. Sadly, most of time this position is abdicated by ignoring its definite reality.
We will all die sometime. And for most, that moment will come upon us as a surprise, leaving our loved ones to scramble in their shock and grief trying to “put words in our lifeless mouths” to capture the essence of a last goodbye. A funeral or memorial service should be a farewell that gives all involved the ability to convey their hearts.
This is especially true of the deceased--not through some eerie séance-- but by thoughtful advanced planning which has put in place expressed thoughts and desires which can be carried out at death.
“You only get one shot at a funeral,” the sound technician from a large church quipped, having provided his expertise for hundreds of services over the years, and having witnessed more than he preferred to count done poorly.
The characteristics of the average funeral: a very short schedule under extreme duress, participants who must reschedule their calendar, obtain travel arrangements, and plan a ceremony sensitive to other family members, coordinating with a funeral home and local congregation create challenges that require the expertise of an air traffic controller to run smoothly. So it should be no surprise that invited speakers are overlooked, musicians miss their cue and family members and friends not properly seated carry hurt feelings long past the probate of the will.
How different this scenario is when a plan has been put in place that addresses these issues ahead of time. Sid Holmgren, a very quick and clever 92 year young friend announced to her children recently “I want to be in control of my funeral.” And she wisely is taking steps to do just that.
How do you guarantee your final goodbye accurately translates your life message?
Bonjour MyGoodbye, giving individuals the tools and resources to craft their farewell their way.
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